经历挫折的说说
转载自百家号作者：美丽心语美文
一、其实人生很多时候需要自觉的放弃。当一切都已成为过眼云烟，放弃已经是最好的诠释，也就是一种最好的幸福。要定期对记忆进行一次删除，把不愉快的人和事从记忆中摈弃，格式化自己，才有储存快乐的空间，没有过不去的事情，只有过不去的心情，这个世界上有百分之五十的烦恼都是通过好好睡一觉就能解决的 ，至于剩下的一半等睡醒再去想。In fact, many times in life we need to give up consciously. When everything has become a cloud, giving up is the best interpretation, that is, the best happiness. We should delete the memory regularly, discard the unpleasant people and things from the memory and format ourselves, so that we can have the space to store happiness. There are no things we can't go through. Only the mood we can't go through, 50% of the troubles in the world can be solved by a good sleep. As for the remaining half, we can think about them when we wake up.
二、我从未变过，只是学会了伪装。跌跌撞撞的，走过了人生最丧最灰暗的时刻，那些最难熬的时光。人很多时候，不是跟事过不去，而是跟心过不去。总是太在乎，可真正在乎你的并不多；总是怕失去，当真正失去时又能奈何。人活一世，庸人自扰，其实就是自寻烦恼；想开了就是幸福，想不开就是痛苦。I never changed. I just learned to disguise. Those who stumble through the darkest moments of life, those most difficult moments. Many times, people can't get along with things, but with their hearts. Always care too much, but really care about you not much; Always afraid of losing, when really losing what can be done. People live a lifetime, mediocre people bother, in fact, it is self-seeking troubles; thinking is happiness, can not think is pain.
三、 有时候，失望到一定程度后，反而会开出一朵花来，那朵花的名字叫，无所谓。而我那个室友，在无数次失望伤心以后，选择了分手。她一直以为是自己太作，直到遇到现在这位Mr Right，她才知道，那段恋情不是毁于前男友情商低，而是毁于没有爱得那么深。
Sometimes, disappointment to a certain extent, but will open a flower, the name of the flower, it does not matter. And my roommate, after countless disappointments and heartbreaks, chose to break up. She always thought that she had done too much. Until she met the Mr Right, she didn't know that the love was not destroyed by her ex-boyfriend's low EQ, but by her lack of love.
四、 买得起自己喜欢的东西，去得了自己想去的地方，不会因为身边人的来或走损失生活的质量，反而会因为花自己的钱，来得更有底气一些，这就是应该努力的原因。
You can afford what you like and go where you want to go. You won't lose the quality of your life because of the people around you. Instead, you will have more confidence because you spend your money. That's why you should work hard.
五、你默默为ta付出的一切，对方一点都没有看在眼里。终于有一天，你决定和自己心爱的人告别，你不愿意再花费时间和精力去爱一个不爱自己的人。
Everything you pay for her in silence is not in the eye of the other party. Finally, one day, you decide to say goodbye to your loved ones. You don't want to spend any more time and energy loving someone who doesn't love you.
六、 每个人的内心深处都会保留着一份悲观色彩，只是因为现实的残酷，人心的难测，所以才会用层层面具遮盖起自己真实的一面，没有人可以从容的面对一切经历，也没有人可以淡定的去处理一切遭遇。
Everyone's heart will retain a pessimistic color, just because of the cruelty of reality and the unpredictability of the people's heart, it will cover up their true side with layers of layers. No one can face all the experiences calmly, nor can anyone deal with all the encounters calmly.
七、我希望找到这样一个人，即使我微笑着说“我还好”的时候，他也能察觉得到我的痛苦。我总想等我考出去了，有的是时间看我喜欢的那些童话和动画片。十几年后的我终于承认，有些事情，错过就是错过了，就算勉强弥补，也不是当时的样子。I hope to find someone who can feel my pain even when I say "I'm OK" with a smile. I always want to wait for my exam. I have time to watch my favorite fairy tales and cartoons. More than a decade later, I finally admitted that some things, missed is missed, even if reluctantly compensated for, is not what it was like at that time.
八、世界太大还是遇见你，世界太小还是丢了你。用随和淡然的态度，过随遇而安的生活。不慌不忙地坚强，安安静静地盛大。The world is too big or meets you, the world is too small or lost you. Live a life of ease and indifference. Strong without hurry, quiet and grand.
九、你走不进那个人的心里，不一定是你不够努力，而是那个人也不断在加固心里的那堵墙。活着就要记住，人生最痛苦最绝望的那一刻是最难熬的一刻，但不是生命结束的最后一刻；熬过去挣过去就会开始体验呼唤未来的生活，有一种对生活的无限热情和渴望。You can't walk into that person's heart, not necessarily because you don't work hard enough, but because that person is constantly strengthening the wall in his heart. To live, we must remember that the most painful and desperate moment in life is the most difficult moment, but not the last moment of the end of life; when we get through the past, we will begin to experience the life calling for the future, with an infinite passion and desire for life.
十、 那些连再见都没有说就离开的人，大概以后再也不会相见，毕竟赞够了失望的人是不会回头的。人们看天气预报时往往看自己住的地方而我不一样我看你住的地方Those who leave without saying goodbye will probably never see each other again. After all, those who have praised and disappointed enough will never look back. When people look at the weather forecast, they tend to see where they live, but I don't see where you live.
十一、尝试过爱而不得的心酸之后，我们也终于学会了适可而止。大概每个人的余生，都是从另一个人的离开开始的吧。你需要我的时候，我都在。到我需要你的时候，我始终找不到你。或许我要的，你给的，都不相同。After experimenting with the bitterness of love, we finally learned to stop. Perhaps the rest of everyone's life begins with the departure of another person. I'll be there when you need me. I can't find you until I need you. Maybe what I want and what you give are different.
十二、常常责怪自己，为什么不早点懂得爱情，懂得珍惜，后来，看过无数风景，走过许多城市村庄才明白，爱情唯其遥远而真实，失去你我也很难受，转过无数路口，后来再也没有遇见过。有缘无分的人，告别后，沧海变桑田，距离无限遥远，也许我此生都不能再到达你的城池，有一种思念，隔着距离，只剩苦涩。Often blame oneself, why not understand love early, know how to cherish, later, after seeing countless scenery, through many cities and villages to understand that love is only remote and real, I also feel sad to lose you, turn countless intersections, and never met again. The fate of the people, farewell, the vicissitudes of change, infinite distance, perhaps I can no longer reach your city in this life, there is a miss, across the distance, only bitter and astringent.
十三、 你轻描淡写的曾经，却是我此生难忘的刻骨铭心。如果我从没遇见你，如果我从没爱上你，如果我一开始没坚信，也许我就不会是现在的这个自己。You have understated the past, but it is unforgettable in my life. If I never met you, if I never fell in love with you, if I didn't believe in you at first, maybe I would not be the person I am now.
十四、爱一个人的感觉就像是在赌，押上你的时间，精力和一颗真心，想要他看你一眼，再一眼，你押得越来越多，越来越舍不得收手，有的人赢得衣钵满盆，有的人输得分文不剩。别说你不求回报，上了赌桌的人，没有一个想空着口袋走；容易被激怒的，大多是弱者，因为弱者才会逞强，强者往往懂得示弱。同理，刻薄是因为底子薄，尖酸是因为心里酸。Loving someone feels like gambling, putting your time, energy and a heart on it. You want him to look at you. Once again, you are betting more and more, and you are reluctant to stop. Some people win bowls and some lose pennies. Don't say you don't ask for reward. No one at the gambling table wants to go empty pockets. Most of the people who are prone to anger are the weak, because the weak will succeed, and the strong will always know how to show their weakness. Similarly, being mean is because of a thin foundation, and being sour is because of a sour heart.
十五、就像生活，就像爱情，就像婚姻，是永远的永恒话题，永远没有定论，因为任何这其中的一件都是牵一发而动全身。所以，一个人要真正的去理解感情这件事，就永远不要执着于自己的感情本身，否则永远不可能理解。Just like life, like love, like marriage, is an eternal topic, there is no final conclusion, because any one of them is involved and touches the whole body. Therefore, if a person wants to really understand the emotions, he should never stick to his own feelings, otherwise he can never understand them.
十六、时间，不一定能证明许多东西，但一定会看透许多东西。越来越觉得，照顾好自己，不给别人添麻烦，是成长重要的一步。Time may not prove many things, but it must see through many things. More and more people feel that taking care of themselves and not causing trouble to others is an important step in their growth.
十七、成熟，不是心变老，而是繁华过后的淡定。随着年轮渐渐淡忘，沉淀于心的，一半是对美好的追求，一半是对残缺的接纳。曾经看不惯，受不了的，如今不过淡然一笑。Maturity is not the old heart, but the calm after prosperity. As the rings fade away and settle in the heart, half is the pursuit of beauty, half is the acceptance of disability. Once I couldn't stand it, but now I just laugh.
十八、如果敌人让你生气，那说明你还没有胜他的把握；如果朋友让你生气，那说明你仍然在意跟他的友情。你身上的温暖蛊惑了我，让我误以为那就是爱情。我手里拿着刀，没法抱你。我放下刀，没法保护你。If the enemy makes you angry, it means that you are not sure you can beat him; if the friend makes you angry, it means that you still care about the friendship with him. The warmth of your body has bewitched me and made me mistake it for love. I can't hold you with a knife in my hand. I can't protect you by putting down my knife.
这会正在回老家过年的路上，基友老张开着车，怕他睡着，有一句没一句的闲聊
来南京也七年了，中间经历过太多太多的事情，有几个挫折我想挑出来说说
没有什么想表达的，就是想码点字，手痒
打开电脑，连上热点，来吧！
第一件
2013年经历了第一件重大挫折，被王小姐骗去全部身家工女又
我是个2012年开始做代购的，到了2013年，也有点钱了，自己原来的积蓄加赚的，几十万总是有的。
和王小姐也就是微博上认识的，经常评论混了个脸熟，然后好几个人经常出来吃饭就熟了
我和王小姐并没有男女方面的事情，我们认识的时候，她已经怀孕了，挺着一个大肚子
我也是我放松警惕的原因之一，我觉得要当妈的人一定不会坏到哪里去，100%的信任
王小姐在经过半年多的酝酿设了一个套，我没有任何怀疑的钻进去了，奉上了全部身家
那时候，我其实已经破产了，只是我自己不知道
细节就就不说了，王小姐宣布正式跑路以后，我一次都没有找过她，她没有发过一条微信消息讨要
我没有时间，我破产了，要留着精力挣钱，你跑路了我再盯着你没有任何意义，真的一次没有找过
如果王小姐看到这条，新年快乐吧
我靠着信用卡，小哥的接济扛到年底，找到了天使投资人，卖了30%的股份活得下来
可以搜索我的微博关键字“我的这几年”，这件事情在2014年里有写
第二件，淘宝店铺被封，这件事情可以搜索我的微博关键字“店铺被关记”，写过一次记录
那次是淘宝随机抽查，后业凭着小票记录找了回来
过程也很曲折
、 那是第一次让我直接站在淘宝的对立面，一面整理小票，一面还进行着大促
也是我创业以来第一次觉得累
心累
创业并不是你想老老实实做生意就行了，有时候麻烦会自己找上门
第三件，被商场封杀
那时候刚刚进入南京金鹰吧
没有什么名气，也没有得到全国的商场资源，所以主要货源还是依靠南京金鹰的几个柜台
我进入的时候，肯定要挤占原来一直在做的老代购的资源，切走她们的蛋糕
当时我在商场的楼上租了一个办公室，然后整个商场的化妆品区就流传着我在商场楼上开
实体店卖化妆品的说法
商场领导亲自开会交代各个柜长， 不允许再和胖子合作
有几天，我还不知道这个事，走进商场总感觉柜姐看我的眼神怪怪的
后来经过沟通，并保证不会开店影响商场的生意
才解除封杀
再后来，我就全国商场买了，鸡蛋不能放在一个篮子里
第四件 微博被封，这事儿我也写过一个长微博， 关键字搜索“微博被封记”
2015年11月
那时候微博有18万粉丝，因为一次抽奖，被微博ceo来总现场执法，封号
给我反应的时间只有几分钟，没有任何能做的，眼看着被封，无能为力
当时“疯一样得胖子”这个号就搜不到了，主页也没有任何内容
我也不能给别人评论和发私信
说实话，当时是比较沮丧的
其他任何事我都不怕，但我的客人基本都来自微博
没有微博，我就是个屁，说难听点，回家搬砖的心都有了
能做的，就是契而不舍给当时具体执行封我号的新浪工作人员发私信
当时还出现了一个插曲
我号被封了，粉丝们跑去微博工作人员微博下面骂😂
人那被骂急了，我这想拿回号的难度就增加了
用小号，经过多轮的沟通，一个星期后号拿回来了
现在想想还是很后怕的
第四件 和白小姐分手
这件事情最后一次说，过了今天就是新年，以后再不说了
前面的事情说实话，也就是少挣点钱，并不是非常的慌，但和她分手的那么一段
时间我是感觉绝望，对自己到底懂不懂与女人相处产生了怀疑
白小姐人很好，有一段时间对我也很好，有一段时间我们也是有结婚打算的，因为一
些原因，没有在能一起，全怪我，不怪她
道理我都懂，但知道分手的那一刻还是非常难受的，整夜的失眠
对自信心是一个摧枯拉朽式的打击
以前想着虽然我丑胖丑胖的，但我能找到这么漂亮的女票，我多牛逼
分手以后，这种自信就没有了，一切等于零，甚至是负的
不过说实话，现在好多了，再次想起她的间隔越来越长
希望她过得好，大家都好
日子还要过，人要往前看
第五件
就是今晚，店铺再次被封
具体过程见上一条长微博
紧张，也很气愤
这次和上一次不一样，上次我上传了小票以及其他证据以后，自然解封
这次他是掐着点，在过年前一天，客服下班后立刻举报，我觉得事情没有这么简单
年后积极面对吧，我不怕
晚上有人问我，你怕吗？
我不怕啊
真的？
真的
想想我这几年经历了那么多，我并没有倒下啊
一次次的沟沟坎坎只能稍微阻挡一下我前进的脚步，减缓一下我前进的速度，最多让我摔一跤
我还会爬起啦继续前进啊，做更大的事，挣更多的钱
这些挫折算什么？
经历了那么多，我不是越来越强吗？
这些小事打不趴我
加油❤️